A simple gesture can be formed into a child's memory so quickly that it will cause the child to give a false answer to a question accompanied by that gesture. A new finding suggests that parents, social workers, psychologists and lawyers should be careful with their hands as well as their words.
Gestures can be as informative as speech, but hand gestures are so common that we rarely notice we're using them.
While the recall of both adults and children are easy to react to suggestion, the memories of children are known to be particularly influenced，said lead researcher Sara Broaders of Northwestern University. Kids are used to looking to adults to tell events for them and can be misled even if not intentionally (故意地).
Previous research, for example, has shown that detail-loaded questions often cause false answers; when asked, say "Did you drink juice at the picnic?" the child is likely to say "yes" even if no juice had been available. It is not that the child is consciously lying, but rather the detail is quickly formed into his or her memory.
To avoid this problem, social workers have long been advised to ask children only open-ended questions, such as "What did you have at the picnic?" But an open-ended question paired with a gesture, briefly meaning a juice box, is treated like a detailed question. That is, children become likely to answer falsely.
And it isn't just a few kids: 77% of children gave at least one piece of false information when a detail was suggested by an ordinary gesture. Gestures may also become more popular when talking with non-fluent language users, such as little kids, Broaders said as hand movements can impart meaning of unfamiliar words and phrases. "It certainly seems reasonable that adults would gesture more with children."
In general, Broaders advises parents and other adults to "Try to be aware of your hands when questioning a child about an event. Otherwise, you might be getting answers that don't reflect what actually happened. "
Most of us lead a busy life. We think, "If I reached my goal, then I would be happy. " or "If I could get a better job, then I would enjoy life. "But why not enjoy life right now?
Firstly, take time to notice and appreciate the beauty in your own surroundings. There is a great big world of wonder and beauty around us! And as Brodersen explains，"Look for the beauty of the sunrise and of a friend's smile that brightens your day. Open your eyes to see the beauty you might not normally see. Doing so helps to cheer you up. "
Secondly, taking time to experience some simple pleasures also can bring joy to your heart and ease your stress. Take me for example. One universal simple pleasure is finding things that make you laugh. Make time to laugh every day.
Thirdly, don't take your family and friends for granted. Rich, rewarding relationships add greatly to the enjoyment of life. When you think of someone, why not call, e-mail or write them？ As Wayne Lawton explains," Invest time in relationships. Remove the attitude: What's in it for me? Happiness is found in putting others' interests, desires and concerns ahead of our own whenever possible. Selfishness is a dead-end street. "
A. Be aware of beauty in nature.
B. So please treasure relationships.
C. You don't need to travel far to find beauty.
D. Driven by the" urgent", we forget to enjoy life.
E. In my spare time, I enjoy collecting stamps and reading novels.
F. A short e-mail or phone call can make a world of difference to someone.
G. I delight in simple things like my favourite tea drink, a bubble bath or family photos.
Body language is quiet and secret and it is the most powerful language of all! It speaks louder than words. According to specialists, our bodies send out more 1than we realize. In fact, nonverbal communication takes up about 50% of what we really2. And body language is particularly 3 when we attempt to communicate across cultures. Indeed, what is called body language is so 4 a part of us that it's actually often unnoticed. And misunderstandings occur as a result of it. 5, different societies treat the distance between people differently. Northern Europeans usually do not like having 6 contact (接触)even with friends, and certainly not with 7. People from Latin American countries, 8, touch each other quite a lot. Therefore, it's possible that in 9, it may look like a Latino is 10 a Norwegian all over the room. The Latino, trying to express friendship, will keep moving closer. The Norwegian, very probably seeing this as pushiness, will keep 11—which the Latino will in return regard as 12.
Clearly, a great deal is going on when people 13. And only a part of it is in the words themselves. And when parties are from different cultures, there's a strong possibility of 14. But whatever the situation, the best 15 is to obey the golden rule: treat others as you would like to be treated.
I feel like I'm always running around. Life, in its gentle way, (try) to slow me down to stop, look at, and listen to the beauty which surrounds me every day.
Several days ago, as I rushed down the street, I found myself behind a woman in a wheelchair. Not (intend) to rush past her on a crowded street, I slowed down and stayed behind her. When we stopped at the traffic lights, I noticedon the other side of the crosswalk (be) another woman around the same age—also in a wheelchair. Something simple yet (beauty) happened as they crossed each other. The woman coming towards us was wearing a broad smile. Then I stared the woman who was next to me. They both locked eyes for a minute smiled widely. Just in that brief moment of passing each other, they exchanged so much. Deeply moved, I thought of the scene mothers held small babies in recognition of one another. If either of them had looked up, they would have noticed a third woman smiling broadly on(see) their communication. It (entire) made my day witness this small beautiful gesture of truly "seeing" each other.
