look through, cheer up, be happy with, be eager for, care about
"Have you checked the oil in the car, Ted?" my father used to say to me. Sometimes our phone calls would begin and end with an only inquiry(询问) about the oil, without asking anything else. Fathers have lots of love to give, but it's often provided through useful advice. In my experience, it's mostly about the car.
Why can't fathers just say" I love you" or" It's great to see you"? Why can't the sentences" I care about you" and" You made my life better from the moment you were born" be heard? Because fathers tend to express their true feelings indirectly. You just have to understand the language—Fatherlish(父亲式语言).
When I was 17 years old, I went on my first road trip in that old car. My father stood on the corner on a cold early morning to say goodbye." Roads are dangerous," he said," so don't try driving faster than a horse. And remember to take a break every two hours. And every time you stop for gas, you really should check the oil." At the time I thought his speech was pretty funny and old.
Dad's long gone now. But after all these years, I realize that if I had owned a copy of the Fatherlish-to-English dictionary, I would have understood that the speech that I always laughed at was simply Dad's way to express love and care.
Family meals are an important part of living with a family. A recent survey shows that most American children and their family1 a meal at least four times a week. This is a(n) 2sign, in my view. It is3dining together is able to benefit family members.
Firstly, having a meal together can help a family stick together, which helps strengthen each family member's sense of4. Family meals can teach younger people about their5by eating traditional foods. Family members can also relax together during this time, temporarily leaving the worries behind, and enjoy each other's6. Routine socializing helps family members show each other's7which cannot only be expressed on Thanksgiving Day.
Secondly, family meals also play an important part in a child's growth. For example, parents are able to8their children's psychology(心理) at this time based on their deeds and expressions. If parents9to lead kids to tell something about it, they can eventually figure out what their psychology looks like. If there is something wrong with it, parents and kids can discuss about it and find the10. Studies show eating together means that kids were not likely to have11to smoke, get into fights, or commit suicide. Children who eat with their families are more likely to12high grades in the end than those who do not eat family meals. And such kids are probably to be more13, and make more friends.
Through family meals, parents can also ensure that their children are eating14foods to have strong bodies. It's because children who eat together with their families can be taught to be not particular about meals.
These families15to eat more fruit and vegetables, instead of often eating at fast food restaurants like the others.
The parent-child relationship is often considered to be the most (last) and important relationship in one's life.
The term parent-child relationship is used (describe) the unique bond(联系) between a caregiver and his or her child. To understand the parent-child relationship, we must look at the ways that parents and children interact(互动) with one another. Think about your parents. How did your relationship your parents influence who you are today, or did it?Many psychologists believe that the relationship between parents and children (be) very important in determining who we become and we interact with others and the world.
Theorists(理论家) in developmental psychology examine the parent-child relationship as an important tool to understand how (individual) develop over time. Sigmund Freud believed that the adults'(develop) is largely influenced by the relationships that children share with their parents. Similarly, Erik Erikson believed that children who have caregivers that meet their basic needs will grow into trusting adults, but children needs are not met will develop feelings of mistrust in future relationships.
Other important theories on relationships between children and parents regard parents as teachers. In other words, we(teach) how to behave through our bonds with our parents. Albert Bandura's social learning theory likened parents to models who show behavior that children then copy. For example, if we are hugged by our parents and see our parents(physical) show their love to others, Bandura's theory would assume that we would become huggers too.
