If you have ever lost touch with old school friends, you may find yourself wanting to make contact again. Some teens find that certain school friends are worth keeping contact with and want to keep the friendship going strong.
Hangoutatthesameplaces
One way you can get together with old friends from your school is to go to the same places that they go to. If you still go to school together, you probably know where everyone goes on the weekends. If you are able to go there too, you may find that your relationships with your old school friends start up again.
Sportsteams
If you are athletic and your former friends are too, joining school sports teams is a great way to catch up with old friends. This doesn't mean that you should join a sport which you do not like just so you can see your old friends. However, if you like sports, wish to join a team and your former friends are on that team, and then playing the team sports is a great way to get to know them again.
Takepartinschoolclubs
There are often a lot of school clubs in which teens participate. Depending on your interests and your former friends' interests, you may just find a club at school. Sharing a common interest such as a club activity will help you to have something in common and something to talk about.
I was never very neat, while my roommate Kate was extremely organized. Each of her objects had its place, but mine always hid somewhere. She even labelled(贴标签) everything. I always looked for everything. Over time, Kate got neater and I got messier. She would push my dirty clothing over, and I would lay my books on her tidy desk. We both got tired of each other.
The war broke out one evening. Kate came into the room. Soon, I heard her screaming, "Take your shoes away! Why under my bed!" Deafened, I saw my shoes flying at me. I jumped to my feet and started yelling. She yelled back louder.
The room was filled with anger. We could not have stayed together for a single minute but for a phone call. Kate answered it.
From her end of the conversation, I could tell right away her grandma was seriously ill. When she hung up, she quickly crawled(爬) under her covers, sobbing.
Obviously, that was something she should not go through alone. All of a sudden, a warm feeling of sympathy rose up in my heart.
Slowly, I collected the pencils, took back the books, made my bed, cleaned the socks and swept the floor, even on her side. I was so buried in my work that I even didn't noticed Kate had sat up.
She was watching, her tears dried and her expression showed her disbelief. Then, she reached out her hands to grasp mine. I looked up into her eyes. She smiled at me, "Thanks."
Kate and I stayed roommates for the rest of the year. We didn't always agree, but we learned the key to living together, giving in, cleaning up and holding on.
Hundreds of friends on Meta can't replace a handful of close friends in real life, a study has found. In a recent study, researchers discovered that people with only a few friends were at least as happy as those with far more if many of theirs were online.
The social media, the researchers said, has encouraged younger people to have larger but more impersonal networks of "friends". But instead of trying to amass friends, they added, a better cure for loneliness might be spending time with those you're closest to.
Scientists from the University of Leeds did their study using data from two online surveys on 1, 496 people by a non-profit research organization. People taking part in the study showed their ages, the make-up of their social networks, how often they had different types of social interactions, and their own feelings of well-being. They included details of how often and how they interacted (交流) with families or neighbors, and whether they included people who provided services to them in their networks.
The number of close friends someone had appeared to be the only thing which influenced how satisfied they were with their social life.
"Loneliness has less to do with the number of friends you have, and more to do with how you feel about your friends," said Dr Wändi Bruine de Bruin. Actually, it's often the younger adults who admit to having a bad opinion of their friends.
If you feel lonely, it may be more helpful to make a positive connection with a friend than to try and seek out new people to meet.
Why can friendships be hard? Because often people aren't as honest and open as they should be. Sometimes, people end up getting hurt.
Most problems with friendships come up because people are just too selfish to care about the things that their friends need. They care about their own needs much more, which makes it hard for friendships to work. However, being selfish is part of human nature. A person is put together in order to take care of himself and his own needs, not necessarily those needs of other people. Even though being selfish is something that all humans are born with, it is something that everyone should guard against.
The best thing to remember when you are a friend to anyone is that you need to treat your friend the same way as you'd like to be treated. This is wonderful advice for a friendship, because it is really the only way to make sure that you are giving your friend everything you would want to be given in a friendship. Whenever you have a question about how you should treat a friend, it is easy to find an answer simply by asking yourself what you would like your friend to do for you, if he or she is in your shoes.
Even if you're always thinking about how you'd like to be treated, and your friends are too, there are issues that come up from time to time in each friendship, and it is important to understand how to deal with these issues so that you can build stronger and healthier friendships. Issues such as friends getting boyfriends or girlfriends and not spending enough time with their friends, or even friends finding new friends and leaving old friends behind, are likely to arise in your friendships. It is important to know how to deal with these issues so that you can keep your friends and make new ones. No one wants to have a broken friendship.
Travelling with friends can be an amazing experience where you could make lifelong memories or it could ruin your friendship. Here are some rules you should follow to make sure your next trip with friends goes as smoothly as possible.
Sure, you and your friends probably have some similar interests, but that's not always the case. In an effort to keep everyone happy, go over travel plans and expectations ahead of time. Have each person categorize activities or sights into "must-see"" want to see" and "would go if we have time". Plan accordingly and make sure everyone can see some of their top attractions.
Communicate and respect each other. Everyone has personal preferences when travelling—from getting the bed closest to the bathroom or sitting in the airplane's window seat. But sometimes things don't go as you like. In this case, share your requirements directly with your travel companions. Have a conversation when problems arise, for the communication is the key.
Don't disappear. When travelling with a group—or even just one other person—you may want some alone time. That's completely fine, but make sure your friends know where you are and have a way of contacting you.
Get off your phone. Of course, your friends will understand if you need to take a call from a family member, or in the event of a work emergency, but other than that, try to stay off your phone. After all, the appeal of this type of trip is to spend time with friends. Just enjoy it!
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A. Give each other some space. B. Include at least one activity for everyone. C. So it's important to make sure you and your friends are on the same page. D. At the same time, listen to their concerns and be respectful to them. E. Don't respond to less important work contact or send messages frequently. F. It's especially true of travelling in foreign countries or unfamiliar places. G. And remember that consideration and respect go a long way. |
It is a blue, cotton shirt. The shirt belonged to my1David. On his birthday before he left college, his mother bought him the shirt.2I gave him free use of my bike, he let me wear the shirt, occasionally.
We shared the shirt, and as days3, we shared more of our4. David was in school by scholarships and grants (助学金). He5to keep his scholarships, because without even one of them, he would have to6and back on the farm. And in David's home, there was always only enough money to cover the expense. His father died when he was twelve.
At times David also talked about his father. Usually it was late at night, in the dormitory just before bed, and the7always ended with tears that flowed from a river of memories and longings: memories of a father suffering from8when his son was just a teenager; longings for opportunities to cure his father's disease missed, because disease does not understand about the9between father and son. Nor does it care.
Time passed and we had to say goodbye to each other. After lots of hugging, and words of thanks, we eventually departed. It was on my10trip upstairs to our dorm that I saw a package on my bed. I11the wrapping paper. It was the blue cotton shirt in a box with a card12to it, reading "Thomas, I can't thank you enough for your13. There have been tough years and you have been14a friend. Thank you for listening. Thanks for everything. —David".
I put aside the note, with15tears dropping on the shirt. I still have the shirt today, though it has faded and wrinkled with age.
In October 2017, Margaret called a number that she believed belonged to (属于)her grandson Barry, and when he didn't pick up, she (leave) him a voicemail. The person she had called, Callie Hall, called Margaret back to let her know she had the wrong number, but over the next couple of(month), Margaret made the mistake a few more times.
"She called about once every two weeks to check in on Barry—whether he needed his shirt repaired anything else he may need, "Hall said. "I would call her back to let her know it was till me and we would chat a little each time. "
After trying to wish Barry happy birthday on December 19, 2017, but again calling Hall, Margaret (final) worked it out. However, that didn't stop her continuing to call Hall—this time purpose.
"This time the voicemail said, 'Hello, Callie!'" Hall said." I worked out Barry's number. Thank you for being my friend. Love you, later. "
From that day forward, they began to form a real (friend). Hall still let Margaret's phone calls go to voicemail because she enjoyed (listen) to her messages later when she needed to brighten her day. But she would also be happy (call) Margaret back so the two could chat. Hall was suffering from an illness, and (they) chats began providing her with encouragement during difficult times.
Peter woke up early in the morning. He went downstairs in a hurry and started to have his breakfast as quickly as possible.
"Why are you in such a hurry, early bird?" Mum asked him. "We will have an English spelling test today, Mum," Peter said. "Mr White promised to offer prizes to those who get 100 scores. I've been studying the word list since last week. Although the words are difficult, I am well prepared for them. "
Peter reviewed the spelling of each word once more carefully when Dad drove him to school. At last, it was time for the students to have a test. "Responsibility," Mr White started. Peter wrote it on his test paper quickly and confidently.
"The second word:contribution, " Mr White said.
"So easy," Peter thought. He quickly wrote the word down.
Thirty words later, the test papers were collected by Mr White. "I am to mark your papers now," he told the class. After marking the test papers, Mr White said, "Three of you won a prize today for excellent test scores. Peter, David and Mary got 100 percent on the spelling test!"
Mr White praised them. Meanwhile, he gave the three students each a dictionary. Peter's was an English-Chinese dictionary—the one he liked best. Peter was so excited that he held it high when his classmates cheered. "This is my happiest moment," Peter thought.
After Mr White gave the test paper back, Peter had a look at the words, feeling proud of his spelling. All of a sudden, the word "contribusion" confused him. It didn't seem right. Peter began to compare them after taking out the word list. "C-o-n-t-r-i-b-u-t-i-o-n," he whispered. He had spelled it wrong.
"What am I to do?" Peter said to himself. "I expect my classmates to think I'm a master in spelling. If I tell Mr White one of my spelling words is wrong, I'll have to give my prize back, or I will become an example for telling a lie".
Staring at the red sign "100%" which was written at his test paper, Peter was lost in thought. After a while, he remembered a lesson Mum used to teach him, "We ought to be an honest person."
注意：续写词数应为150左右。
Slowly, Peter raised his hand.
Peter looked around and found many of his classmates were smiling at him.
