Many students may feel stressed because of their parents. Most parents have good intentions, some of them are not very helpful with the problems their sons and daughters have in (adjust) to college, and a few of them seem to go out of their way to add to their children's (difficulty).
For one thing, parents are often not aware of (意识到) the kinds of problems their (child) face. They don't realize that the (compete) is stronger, that the required standards of work are (high), and that their children may not be prepared for change. They may be upset by their children's poor grades. At their kindest, they may (gentle) ask why John or Mary isn't doing better, whether he or she is trying as hard as he or she should, and so on. At their worst, they may threaten (take) children out of college or cut off living expenses.
Sometimes parents think it right and natural that they determine their children do with their lives. They forget that everyone is different and that each person must develop in his or her own way.
Most of us lead a busy life. We think, "If I reached my goal, then I would be happy. "or" If I could get a better job, then I would enjoy life." But why not enjoy life right now?
Firstly, take time to notice and appreciate the beauty in your own surroundings (环境). "There is a great big world of wonder and beauty around us!" And as Brodersen explains, "Look for the beauty of the sunrise and of a friend's smile that brightens your day. Open your eyes to see the beauty you might not normally see. Doing so helps to cheer you up. "
Secondly, taking time to experience some simple pleasures also can bring joy to your heart and reduce your stress. Take me for example. One universal simple pleasure is finding things that make you laugh. Make time to laugh every day.
Thirdly, don't take your family and friends for granted. Rich, rewarding relationships add greatly to the enjoyment of life. When you think of someone, why not call, email or write then? As Wayne Lawton explains, "Invest (投入) time in relationships. Remove the attitude, what's in it for me? Happiness is found in putting other's interests, desires and concerns ahead of our own whenever possible. Selfishness (自私) is a deadend street. "
A. Discover the beauty in nature.
B. So please treasure relationship.
C. You don't need to travel far to find beauty.
D. Driven by the "urgent", we forget to enjoy life.
E. In my spare time, I enjoy collecting stamps and reading novels.
F. A short email or phone call can make a world of difference to someone.
G. I delight in simple things like my favorite tea drink, a bubble bath or family photos.
One thing that seems to hold a lot of people back from setting and achieving big goals is the need for security (安全). Security is a feeling of certainty that everything is OK and that all your basic needs will be provided for. On the surface there's nothing wrong with that. It's great to feel secure. Abraham Maslow lists it as one of the basic human needs. If we don't feel secure, we can't move onto higher levels like love and achievement. If we have doubts about paying the rent at the end of the month, how can we possibly go after our really big dreams?
So how is it that some people are able to start a new business while completely broke? Do business risk takers simply have a lower need for security?
If you read the stories of very successful people, you see a common pattern (模式) again and again—from an external (外部的) point of view, most of these people were not in a secure situation when they started going after their dreams. Sylvester Stallone was so broke that he had to sell his dog. Tony Robbins did his dishes in his bathroom because his small apartment had no kitchen. Brian Tracy was a day laborer. Og Mandino was a homeless drunk who went into libraries to stay warm. While some successful people start out with a lot of advantages, most don't.
Meanwhile, how is it that others who seem to be in a far more secure situation are paralyzed from taking action? People who have some money in the bank, a nice home, and a highlypaid job still don't feel secure. Meanwhile, others with far worse starting positions pass them by. Why?
The reason isn't that some people need security more than others. I think everyone needs to feel secure. The difference, however, is that the successful risk takers define security internally (内部地) while others define security externally.
In the early part of the twentieth century, racism (种族歧视) was widespread in the United States. Many African Americans were not given equal opportunities in education or employment. Marian Anderson (18971993) was an African American woman who gained fame as a concert singer in this climate of racism. She was born in Philadelphia and sang in church choirs during her childhood. When she asked for admission to a local music school in 1917, she was refused because she was black. Unable to attend music school, she began her career as a singer for religious activities. In 1929, she went to Europe to study voice and spent several years performing there. Her voice was widely praised throughout Europe. Then she returned to the US in 1935 and became a top concert singer after performing at Town Hall in New York City.
Racism again affected Anderson in 1939. When it was arranged to sing at Constitution Hall in Washington D. C. , the Daughters of the American Revolution opposed (反对) it because of her color. She sang instead at the Lincoln Memorial for over 75,000 people. In 1955, Anderson became the first black soloist (独唱) to sing in the Metropolitan Opera of New York City. The famous conductor Toscanini praised her voice as "heard only once in a hundred years". She was a US delegate (代表) to the United Nations in 1958 and won the UN peace prize in 1977. Anderson eventually triumphed over racism.
