A marine biologist placed a shark into a large holding tank and then released several small bait fish into the tank. The result met your 1, the shark quickly swam across the tank, attacked and ate the smaller fish.
The biologist then 2a strong piece of fiberglass into the tank, creating two 3parts. She then put the shark on one side of the 4fiberglass and a new set of bait fish on the other. 5, the shark quickly attacked. But this time, the shark 6because it knocked hard against the fiberglass 7. Determined, the shark kept 8this behavior every few minutes, but 9. Meanwhile, the bait fish swam around 10in the second part. Eventually, the shark 11hope of hunting. This experiment was carried out several times. Each time, the shark got less 12and made fewer attempts to attack the fish, until it 13hitting the fiberglass and simply stopped attacking. The biologist then 14the fiberglass, but the shark didn't attack. The shark was trained to believe a 15existed between it and the bait fish, 16the bait fish could swim wherever they wished, free from harm.
Many of us, after experiencing setbacks and failures, 17give up and stop trying. Like the shark in the story, we believe that 18we were unsuccessful in the past, we will always be unsuccessful. 19, even when no "real" obstacle exists between where we are and where we want to go, we 20see obstacles in our heads.
Once a circle missed a wedge (楔子). The circle wanted to be whole, so it went around looking for its missing piece. But because it was incomplete and therefore could roll only very slowly, it admired the flowers along the way. It chatted with worms. It enjoyed the sunshine. Finally it found a piece that fit perfectly. It was so happy. Now that it was a perfect circle, it could roll very fast, too fast to notice flowers or talk to the worms. When it realized how different the world seemed when it rolled so quickly, it stopped, left its found piece by the side of the road and rolled slowly away.
In some strange sense we are more whole when we are missing something. The man who has everything is in some ways a poor man. He will never know what it feels like to yearn, to hope, to nourish(滋润) his soul with the dream of something better. He will never know the experience of having someone who loves him give him something he has always wanted or never had.
There is wholeness about the person who has come to terms with his limitations, who has been brave enough to let go of his unrealistic dreams and does not feel like a failure for doing so. There is wholeness about the man or woman who has learned that he or she is strong enough to go through a tragedy(悲剧) and survive — he or she can lose someone and still feel like a complete person.
Life is more like a baseball season, when even the best team loses one third of its games and even the worst team has its days of brilliance. Our goal is to win more games than we lose. When we accept that imperfection is part of being human, and when we can continue rolling through life and appreciate it, we will have achieved wholeness that others can only long for.
When something goes wrong，it can be very satisfying to say, “Well, it's so-and-so's fault.” or “I know I'm late, but it's not my fault; the car broke down.” It is probably not your fault，but once you form the habit of blaming somebody or something else for a bad situation，you are a loser. You have no power and could do nothing that helps change the situation. However, you can have great power over what happens to you if you stop focusing on whom to blame and start focusing on how to remedy the situation. This is the winner's key to success.
Winners are great at overcoming problems. For example, if you were late because your car broke down, maybe you need to have your car examined more regularly. Or, you might start to carry along with you the useful phone numbers, so you could call for help when in need. For another example, if your colleague causes you problems on the job for lack of responsibility or ability, find ways of dealing with his irresponsibility or inability rather than simply blame the person. Ask to work with a different person, or don't rely on the person. You should accept that the person is not reliable and find creative ways to work successfully regardless of how your colleague fails to do his job well.
This is what being a winner is all about—creatively using your skills and talents so that you are successful no matter what happens. Winners don't have fewer problems in their lives; they have just as many difficult situations to face as anybody else. They are just better at seeing those problems as challenges and opportunities to develop their own talents. So, stop focusing on “whose fault it is”. Once you are confident about your power over bad situations, problems are just stepping stop on for success.
Change is much easier when you have many supporting partners and unlimited resources. But, since it is often the shock of a death, divorce or some other life tragedy that (push) us out of our comfort zone to take care of ourselves, it can mean(force) to start to be independent, which for many of us is the scariest part of all.
Probably the most difficult thing about seeking significant change is doing it you don't have financial or emotional tools available to make the process go (smooth). But sometimes reaching our full potential means working without safety net. For those truly (devote) to their mission, having fewer resources can be a surprising blessing as it forces them to get (create)and explore new paths.
I don't know if it's possible to leave this worldzero regrets. Because of the natural life cycles and the fact that sometimes it's the tragedy that causes our awakenings, we often realize it too late to avoid certain painful (outcome).
Please keep in mind that the choice belongs to each of us. We all have the power to change and give more intentional (direct) to the remainder of our lives.
