People hold different views on almost anything, mainly because of the culture we are familiar with or the education we have received. We live in a 1 world where people are quick to point out the faults and imperfections of others, yet seem unaware of their own. Some misguided souls believe they have a duty to help you to be a better person by telling you what a failure you really are first and then offering suggestions as to how you can improve.
So what is the possible solution to 2? If you are the one forcing others to feel 3 themselves, STOP. Make a conscious decision rather than 4 the negative aspect of a person's performance or attitudes. You'll offer helpful suggestions from the beginning. If I'm painting our living room and 5 in doing so, I would like my husband to say to me, "This is a tough job. Can I offer a suggestion that might make it easier for you?" rather than have him point out what a 6 painter I am and then tell me how I should be doing it.
If you are on the 7 end of criticism, the "OK" response is a perfect solution. When someone comments negatively on a task you are doing or a personality issue of yours, a(n) 8 response is to defend and attack. However, this approach is rarely effective as it puts both parties on the 9. Instead, simply reply with "OK". This brief one-word response 10 the other person's comment without agreeing with it or feeling necessary to engage in a debate about it.
It is important to remain emotionally attached to what the other person is saying, to listen without feeling, to be a(n) 11 observer. In fact, there is much that one can learn from a 12 review. You can ask yourself: Did I make a mistake? Could I have done better? Did I give 100% of myself to the task at hand? If so, how can I improve myself? As for chronic (习惯性的) criticizers: It is important to set strict boundary with them. Remove yourself from their 13 when necessary.
14, one can learn to be "OK" with criticism and not allow it to negatively impact your life or relationship with the other party. Examine it for any potential 15, and then let it go and just be "OK".
