As Alison Gopnik described in her recent book, there are two kinds of parents in modern America: The Carpenter and the Gardener. The "carpenter" thinks that his or her child can(shape). "The idea is that if you just do the right things, get the right skills and read the right books, you're going to be able to turn your child a particular kind of adult，" she said
The
"gardener", however 
is seldom concerned about (control) what the child will become and instead provides a protected space explore). The style is all about:" creating a rich, nutritious but also variable, diverse, active ecosystem".
Gopnik, a psychology and philosophy professor at the University of California, Berkeley, said." Many parents are carpenters, and is really necessary for them to bring up their children." She spent decades researching children's development and finally (find) that parents often focused too much on what their children would be as adults. The harm is that parents and their children may become (anxiety), tense or unhappy.
"We're so concerned about our children we think have difficulty mastering their own future that we're unwilling to allow them to (free) explore the world." she says. The truth is that the (little) that parents worry about outcomes, the better their children may live in life.
