Be a good Listener
When communicating with others, we often focus (集中) on what we should say. Try the following tips to become a good listener.
Pay full attention to the speaker. You can't listen effectively (有效地) if you're constantly checking your phone or thinking about something else. If you find it hard to do so, try repeating their words over in your head—it'll help you stay focused.
Show your interest in what's being said. Nod and smile at the speaker from time to time. These show that you are listening with interest.
Listen without judging the other person or the things she tells you. If what she says frightens you, go ahead and feel frightened, but don't say to yourself, "Well, that was a stupid move." As soon as you allow yourself to be judgmental, you've decreased your effectiveness as a listener.
Don't be a sentence-grabber. When you are trying to speed up the conversation by finishing the other's sentences, this usually lands you way off base. So what you need is patience, not speed.
A. Keep an open mind.
B. Look at each other in the eye.
C. The only way to find out is by listening.
D. But successful communication is more about listening.
E. Encourage the speaker to continue with small expressions like "yes" or "uh huh".
F. Stay focused on the moment-to-moment experience to pick up the important information.
G. You're following your own train of thought and ignore where the speaker's is headed.
