A high school history teacher once told us, "If you make one close friend in school, you will be the most lucky. A true friend is someone who stays with you for life." Experience teaches that he is right.
To most of us, friendships are considered very important, but we need to make it clear in our minds what kinds of friendship we want. You may ask yourself the following questions. Do we want to share ourselves or do we want to walk on surface?
For some people, many friendships on the surface are quite enough and that's all right. It's whether or not our expectations are the same as our friends' expectations. If so, the sharing of personal experiences including our tears as well as our dark dreams is the surest way to deepen friendships.
The greatest is to expect too much too soon. Deep relationships take time. Another "main difficulty" is the selfishness (自我中心；任性) to think one "possesses(控制)" the other, including his time and attention. In fact, friendships require actions in return. Finally, there is a question of taking care of. Unless you spend reasonable time together, talking on the phone, writing letters, doing things together, friendships will die away.
A. Good friendship is just not easily formed.
B. We should understand why we need friends.
C. Are they to be close or kept at arm's length?
D. What are some of the difficulties of friendship?
E. In other words, you must give as much as you take.
F. But at some point we need to make sure one thing.
