① Jane has been living in China for more than two years and she has come to know some of the differences between Western and Chinese culture. Here is what she has to say about this.
②"In China people often try to avoid conflicts. If somebody does something you don't like, you may be upset(不开心), but you should hide it, keep it inside, and act like nothing is wrong. If you must do something about it, you should not talk to the person directly, but rather talk to someone else who will then talk with them. However, in the Western countries, things are different. If someone does something I don't like, I will tell them so. I may say it nicely or I may get very angry, but at least I will do something. Also, I won't talk to other persons about it and instead I will talk to the person directly. In fact, in fact, in the Western countries, if you say something bad about someone to someone else, it is thought that you have a bad character.
③ "A very good example of this comes from my first year of teaching in China. I knew I did not have a lot of experience in teaching and that I probably made many mistakes, so I asked them if I was doing wrong, what I should do better and so on. However, every time I asked, they said, 'Oh, you are doing a wonderful job.' I really expected someone to tell me something to help me improve, but after that, people started telling me that the leader was not satisfied with my work. A few months later, I got a letter saying that my teaching was not good enough and that I would no longer be able to teach at the school. I was so surprised that I didn't know how to handle it."
④ She also told me another thing, "Every time I go out, people ask, 'Where are you going?' I am really tired of these." It is time for us to pay more attention to the culture differences.