In honor of Mother's Day this year, Michelle Obama shares memories of her mom, Marian Robinson, who shaped the fantastic life of America's first lady. In a special speech Obama reflects on what she learned about parenting from her own mother:
My mother is a woman who chooses her words carefully. She sometimes speaks slowly with a smile to make herself understood. it's a style that makes her a good partner or friend who doesn't need the limelight.
As I've grown older, I've seen how her manner in conversation also reflects her way of parenting. When it came to raising her kids, my mom knew that her voice was less important than allowing me to use my own, that meant she listened a lot more than told you how she thought you should behave, During my growing up, she was willing to endure endless questioning from me—Why do we have to cat eggs for breakfast? Why do people need jobs? Why are the houses bigger in their neighborhoods? Why do we need to study? She would listen patiently to my explanation, instead of speaking angrily to ne, if I had a fight with some of the neighbor kids.
In today's world, it is easy to think that she wasn't being responsible, and that she was letting the kids rule the roost. But that was not true. She and my father were devoted to their children, pouring a deep and long-lasting foundation of goodness and honesty, of right and wrong, into my brother and me. Even if I got bad grades at school, she never scolded me seriously. Instead, she always analyzed the reasons with me. What they did simply let us be ourselves.
…I see now bow important that kind of freedom is for all children, especially for girls… It's up to us, as mothers and mother figures, to give the girls in our lives the kind of support that lifts up their voices—not necessarily with our own words, but by letting them find the words themselves.