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Q Dear Matt, I don't have anyone to play with at break. My classmates all have their company, and no one is interested in talking to me. I'm shy and very lonely. I find it hard to make friends. what should I do? Friendless |
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A Dear Friendless, Take the initiative. The things that you want in life won't always just happen for you. Often, we need to take action to make a positive change in our lives. This also happens to be true for making friends. Fortunately, there is a lot you can do starting today to build friendships with your classmates. It's true that it's easier for some people to make friends than others. Like you, I am also a fairly shy person. Sometimes, it takes effort to go out and meet people. You will have to overcome your shyness by talking to people. It may be frightening and uncomfortable at first, but it's the only way to develop your confidence and begin to make friends. Making new friends starts with talking. You will need to get close to others to start a conversation. Do you have any common interests with your classmates? Find them. It could be something as simple as a TV show, music or sports. Are you involved in any after-school clubs, sports or activities? There are friends out there for all of us, and they will come more naturally. I used to play on a soccer team for many years when I was younger. Working towards a common goal-winning the game in this case—helped the teammates to work together. I made many friends this way. During the break, maybe you can introduce a new game or activity that others would be interested in. Make sure your body language shows that you are open and willing to talk with others. Don't be afraid to speak loud before a group of people. Also, don't be afraid to simply ask if you can join your classmates in whatever game or activity they're now engaged in. You can do it. Matt |
