Life doesn't always tum out to be the way we'd like. When situations take an unfavorable tum, we become upset, frustrated, or angry. When others don't agree with us, or act in a manner we find disturbing, anger is a typical response. With the exception of a few extreme circumstances, an angry reaction rarely improves the situation or helps us change our mind. Thoughtful consideration of what feelings and reaction are most helpful actually restores our real power, so consider the following alternatives to anger.
Compassion (同情), consisting of both understanding and empathy, can be a perfect solution to anger. Each person has the right to live a life according to their beliefs, dreams, needs. etc. If someone is acting improperly or not living up to our ideals. We need to remove the "should" and remind ourselves that it is a necessary par of their life's journey. Choosing this alternative response softens one's heart and prevents anger from arising.
Humor is another powerful tool for lessening anger. We take life and personal offense far too seriously. After all. Others' behavior is a reflection of their internal spirits and has nothing at all to do with us and in reality, it is relatively unimportant. Humor puts any serious situation in place. It acts as a protective barrier to emotional pain as we recognize that what is happening has nothing at all to do with us.
So when others behave badly, forgive them for their bad behavior rather than judge them in your heart. When life hands us the exact opposite of what we request, make light of it. After all, this situation is only temporary so why get so bent out of shape when it isn't in line with your ideals? Rain on your wedding day? Break out of the umbrellas and boots and dance in the puddles(小水坑)！
