How to Have Better Communication with Children
Communication works like a bee.It can produce honey or sting(刺痛). It's true. To be better parents, we need to use the tool to develop better communication with our children.Go over the list and consider how it applies to you.
Preaching(说教)
"Do you think it was nice to talk to your mother that way? We taught you to be respectful and you have to understand that that's not a way to talk." If you talk like that, kids will do everything to avoid your company.
Teasing
Something you say is only funny if everyone laughs and thinks it's funny.If not, it's not funny.Laughing with someone is great.Laughing at someone isn't great.
Threatening
"I will take your mobile phone if you don't do what I say.NO more computer. You're not allowed to go to any party until you apologize." Parents who threaten are weak.The problem your kids know you're weak, and they lose respect for you.
Comparison
Parents' comparisons typically make the children feel bad.This feeling of inadequacy(缺乏信心) remains until old age.It makes the kids try to achieve more than everyone else, and that's impossible.It also makes the kids chase goals for the sake of winning, without being true to themselves.
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A. What parents say matters a lot! B. Parents need to teach, not preach. C. If you do it one more time, no pocket money for a month. D. So even when they succeed, they don't get a sense of achievement. E. It means you can say no with respect for their thoughts and feelings. F. Parents sometimes say things they think are funny, but it hurts their children. G. Our communication is the tool we have to strengthen or destroy relationship. |
