When you're having a hard time with something, it's natural to turn to others for help. Getting help sounds simple, but it's not always easy to do. Sometimes certain beliefs or ways of thinking can make it hard to ask for help. Here are some kinds of attitudes that can stand in the way and ideas on how to get past them.
Some people believe that needing help is a sign of weakness. Actually, it's a sign of strength, not weakness. You know what you need and you shouldn't be afraid to reach out for it. Once a boy told me he wanted to ask his coach how to improve his basketball skills, but he was afraid that his coach might think he shouldn't be on the team. In fact, when he asked his coach for help, his coach thought he was practicing hard.
Some other people think they don't deserve(应该得到) help or support. Everyone needs help now and then. Accepting help can strengthen friendships and relationships. Everyone feels good when they can support a friend. For example, if you want to find out how Katy solves problems with her parents, you should ask Katy if she has time to talk and tell her how important her viewpoint is, instead of worrying that Katy is too busy to help you. When you ask for help, choose someone who listens and cares, not someone who criticizes(批评)you. If you get refused, it's not because of you, but the other person, So tell yourself: If Katy says no, she might not be ready to talk about her own experiences,
Another wrong attitude is waiting for someone else to make the first move, It's not always easy for other people to find when you need help. Maybe you're putting on a cheerful face to hide the problem. Don't wait for someone to read your mind. You have to ask
Because it can be hard to reach out for help, don't hesitate(犹豫) to offer support to another person if you think he or she needs it. Giving and receiving help are great life skills to learn. They help us improve our abilities to understand other people.
