New Year's resolutions(决心) usually are like some of those promises that are meant to be broken. The word "New" in the new year, puts a lot of pressure on starting over and turning a new leaf. But you must remember you cannot just become a different person overnight when the clock strikes Instead of making resolutions that cause you stress, anxiety or more pain, set out this year by. Making resolutions that will encourage self-care.
To start fresh this New Year's Day, here are a few tips setting realistic new years' resolutions in order to avoid the burden of disappointment next year.
Choose a very specific goal
Unclear plans like "lose weight" "exercise more" or "write more" are goals with no teeth.
They are unclear plans and desires, and are very easy to explain away due to how unclear they are. Such goals with a certain task, are much more doable than unclear goals.
Once you have chosen your goals, make a very detailed plan of how you will reach that goal. Having a plan and a pathway can help you imagine your progress and won't make you impatient for immediate results. That way you will have already imagined what progress would look like for you in say, 3 months, 5 months, 7 months or every day depending on your goals.
Get yourself a social group
In today's social media world, it is easy to find a group of like-minded individuals interested in sharing your goal. Get yourself a social group like this. However, just as there is this bright side to having a social group, the problem is the pressure. Don't get consumed by social media and what others are doing.
Accept failure and forgive yourself.
Accept this failure; own it and forgive yourself. Being hard on yourself will only do you more harm, so instead learn from, what went wrong and instead of quitting the resolution at the end of next year, see it through until you reach your goal.
A. Make a plan to reach that goal
B. Be patient with your progress
C. Instead, set goals like "exercise 20 minutes every day" or "lose 15 pounds"
D. Despite all your efforts, it is possible that you might fail or make a mistake.
E. Therefore, new year's resolutions usually end up in failure
F. Change is a difficult process-the key words being "difficult" and "process"
G. Remember you have this group only for support, not for comparison
