My friend Jenny was angry with her husband. She said, "When we go out, it's always me that plans it. Can't you make a special 1 for me, even if it is just for my birthday?" We've all experienced times when someone does something 2 us, and we're not sure if we should say something or bite our tongue. Keeping 3 may make issues or problems get worse.
An unsatisfied desire is hidden beneath a(n) 4. For example, when I say, "You never put things away!" my implication (含义) is to have a 5 space. Nobody likes hearing that. Instead, try to see what you actually desire and then say it in a 6 manner by using some "I would love… statements." This opens the door to 7. Going back to Jenny, it isn't just that she wants her husband to plan the date. She wants to feel special and be 8.
Sometimes, 9 our underlying (潜在的) desire doesn't 10 mean that we will get what we want. We have to stay open to how that desire will get 11. So, in Jenny's case, first, she should 12 that her underlying desire is to feel loved and tell it to her husband. She then can see how her husband makes a 13, like when he offers to 14 the kids just so that she could get some personal time. Jenny is able to improve her relationship with her husband by taking those steps.
It's a(n) 15 way to recognize your underlying desire and express that with an inspiring "I would love..." statement. Try it and find out how your desire could be fulfilled.
