Dear Sally,
I recently became engaged, I love my fiancé a lot but we are getting into a lot of arguments our Wedding plans. I would prefer a small wedding, just our immediate family and closest friends. I think it is such a special moment and I only want the people who are most important to be near us. I don't want to be surrounded by people not really (care) about us. He wants the whole world to be there—the mail carrier, the baker, the butcher!!! My fiancé says a wedding day is (important) day in anyone's life. He wants to share his joy with everyone.
It's not a question whether we can afford it although I worry about how much a wedding costs and I would rather save the money for a house. I dislike fighting but I just don't feel comfortable with his plans.
——Nervous
Dear Nervous,
Planning weddings be very stressful. Each person has clear ideas about his or her "perfect" wedding would be. Each person has dreams and hopes for that day. Now it is a good time to practice compromising (妥协) with your husband-to-be. one of you should be unhappy on your wedding day. If you get your way, your husband will be unhappy. If he gets his way, it sounds you will be unhappy.
Why don't the two of you talk about compromise? Perhaps a medium-sized wedding? Perhaps two weddings—a small intimate ceremony and a large reception? You （have）to compromise many times in your married life. You both can start now.
——Sally
