Dreams and goals（目标）are important because they give us a ruler against which to measure our progress. But progress, not meeting a goal, is what brings true happiness.
After winning the silver medal in women's single figure skating at Beijing 2022, Alexandra Trusova was heard screaming that she hated the sport. Even the gold medalist, Anna Shcherbakova, said that "this has been what I've been working toward every day. . . " You can feel in her words the emptiness in her heart.
This kind of pressure (压力) might be difficult for you to imagine. After all, you probably aren't an Olympic athlete. But have you ever connected your happiness to a far-off goal that you could achieve only by putting great efforts into it? Maybe it's finishing a degree or gaining a certain amount of income.
Researchers have found that satisfaction is brought about not by big wins, but by making progress in meaningful work.
Some researchers think that when a goal is the final point for progress, the sudden stop in the process of forward can lead to a feeling of emptiness, which is exactly what Shcherbakova described in Beijing. This doesn't mean that you should give up all goals, however. You just need to understand and pursue them in different ways.
• Enjoy the journey not the destination. Instead of chasing (追赶) a goal with a single eye, think more on about whether you're getting anything out of your progress right now.
• Think about the purpose of your goals. The point of a useful goal is to improve your quality of life by changing, not to limp (艰难地移动) across the finish line and stop after a difficult challenge.
• Take one step at a time. Researchers have found that common, small achievements help to start a cycle of success and happiness much more than rare, big ones. Make sure you can break your long-term goals into smaller tasks. Enjoy the daily and weekly achievements that you know are leading you down the road to success.
The writer's opinion | What brings you happiness is not meeting a goal, progress. | ||
People's feelings | Alexandra Trusova | A sports woman came | Screamed out that she hated the sport. |
Anna Scherbakova | A sports woman won the gold medal | Achieved the goal she had been worked for, but felt in her heart. | |
You | Not an Olympic athlete | May feel to understand the athlete's pressure. | |
Researchers' opinions | One may feel satisfied not just when he wins, but when he makes progress in meaningful work. | ||
The goal is the final point for progress. If someone suddenly in the way, he may feel empty. | |||
The writer's three | • Instead of paying only attention to where you go, value what you can get the progress you make. • Instead of just trying to rush past the finishing line and stop, make sure what you want to achieve does help to improve your quality of life when you . • Instead of setting rare and big goals, break them into tasks and finish them step by step, so that you can make progress day by day to start a cycle of success and . | ||
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