As a fan of computer science, Zeng guolai wanted to buy a classic book about computers. But his parents turned him down. "You won't have time to read it," they said.
However, this 16-year-old from the High School finally got it — by lying. As he said the book was required by his school, his parents agreed.
Many teenagers have had similar experiences to Zeng's. They have lied to their parents for different reasons including getting things they want, staying away from criticism (批评), and winning their parents' praise.
But there are some main reasons behind this situation, said Wang Bing, a famous teacher in mental health at Peking University(北京大学). When students are becoming independent(独立的)and want more freedom, parents just don't let go.
"For teenagers, lying(撒谎)seems to be a good way to get freedom and students don't want to have arguments with their parents, either,"Wang told the newspaper.
In fact, as children grow up, they have less communication with their parents which leads to less mutual (相互的) trust. This is also an important reason for lying, as Wang mentioned.
But unlike many parents who see telling lies as a signal of children becoming rebellious(叛逆的) or"bad", Wang believed that this action should hardly be called a "moral (道德的) problem". Rather, it is a way for teenagers to step into the adults'world —They have long been told to do things, but as they are growing up, they want to challenge social rules and see the results.
Parents should walk in their children's shoes and guide their children to think positively, rather than simply blame (责备) them when things go wrong. As for teenagers, ▲.