①"Helicopter parents" are those parents who pay too much attention to their children. They are always making a big effort to provide children with every opportunity to succeed, from baby steps at age 1, homework at age 8, employment at age 25 to family problems at age 30, 40 or even older.
②Helicopter parenting can develop for a number of reasons. Worries about children's future success can push parents to take more control over their children's life. Adults who felt unloved as children may want to give as much love as they can to their own children. And when parents see others doing so, they will also follow.
③Although it develops with the idea of doing good things, yet the result isn't always satisfying. Mary is taken to five after-school classes each week, but she doesn't do well in any of them. "I feel like I am just checking off things on the checklist(清单)," she says.
④Worse still, over-parenting can do the exact opposite. A child raised in this way may feel helpless once he has to do things on his own. " ▲ ," an expert said,"and if parents don't let their children experience failure themselves, the children won't get them. "
⑤ Since helicopter parenting does such great harm, does it mean parents should just back off and let it go? Of course not! "The point is to prepare the kid for the road but not the road for the kid," another expert said. "Give them the morals, give them the right start and develop their good habits, but you have to let them live their own lives. "