①Shyness can be an unhappy feeling. But the good news is that you're not alone. Scientists say that more than 40 percent of teenagers and adults consider themselves shy.
②What makes people shy?Scientists say such things as genes(基因), life experiences, and environment can influence whether a person is shy. For example, everybody seems to be shy.
③What might happen if you are shy? Well, being shy may cause you to avoid or miss opportunities you would enjoy.
④How do people overcome shyness? This is what Gilbert tells us. "When I started off trying to get over being shy, I decided to do little steps at a time, including practicing smiling and saying hi to people. And it worked for me. " For most people, overcoming shyness takes time and practice. Here are some tips given by scientists.
⑤Think of what to talk about before you're in a social situation. For example, if you know your classmates are interested in an upcoming event, learn about it so you can join in the conversations.
⑥Let people know you're shy. Instead of letting people guess, tell them the truth. Explain that you're shy and feel nervous but enjoy talking to people.
⑦Make things easy for the other person. Remember, you're not the only shy person around. Doing what you think might help others feel good, for example say hello or smile.
Pick one social skill to practice at a time. Start simply. For example, smile or be the first person to say hi. Choose skills you feel comfortable enough with to practice for a day, a week, a month, or even a year.