When things don't seem to go right, what's your first thought? Do you just give up or do you make a promise to try a different approach? If you give up the effort simply because you've run into difficulty, you're not only giving yourself a reason to call yourself a failure, you're also depriving (剥夺) yourself of the opportunity to learn.
Nothing in life stays the same. Everything is always in a state of change. Your ability to recognize change and make peace with it, while also finding the flexibility to adapt to changing conditions, will determine how effectively you can continue making progress toward your life goals.
Indeed, when you discover and accept your ability to be flexible, all things are possible. That's because the realization that there are other ways to go about dealing with what happens in life and to find ways around seemingly impossible difficulties makes you stronger, more self-confident and satisfied. It also greatly improves your perception (感知) of your abilities.
Consider that overcoming difficulties is quite an achievement. When you combine that with the confidence you feel in being able to analyze and put together a workable approach or solution, you wind up with a positive outcome overall. This satisfying result adds to your motivation to solve the next item on your list, to go for another goal that may be a bit more challenging.
This ability to overcome difficulties doesn't come about automatically, yet it is a talent you can foster. Indeed, it may seem like a losing plan, especially if you don't see results right away. Instead of losing hope, keep on going.
Have you ever disappointed yourself despite your efforts when you've encountered challenges in adapting to changing circumstances? Suppose you haven't been able to figure out a way around them or couldn't determine a workable approach. Is this a terrible thing? Does it mean you're certain to forever be at the end of the line when it comes to accomplishments? It's not like that. What it does indicate, however, is that you may yet keep some unforgiving thoughts about your own abilities. You may, for example, not trust your instincts (本能) or you might not believe you're capable enough of taking a calculated risk.