Asking for help is a sign of strength rather than weakness. In American culture, the independent individual is seen as perfect. As the University of Missouri at St. Louis states on its website under the heading Key American Values, "Americans have been trained since very early in their lives to consider themselves as separate individuals who are responsible for their own situations in life and their own destinies（命运）. " The value also makes them think they can do everything themselves, and makes them feel badly about asking for help when they need it.
And when it comes to work situations, when they think about asking for help there, sometimes they fear that a request for help would make them look incompetent(无能的). While this has always been true for men, many women in the workplace have felt the need to try twice as hard as their male colleagues and do twice as much to get just as far and to prove their worth. Sometimes when we think about asking for help, our inner voices tell us, "See, if you admit you can't do this on your own, they'll see you for the imposter (骗子) you really are. "
But the fact is, even though individualism is on the rise, we can't do everything by ourselves and we shouldn't try.
Apple founder Steve Jobs once told the Santa Clara Valley Historical Association about the power of asking for help, and how he "never found anybody who didn't want to help me when I asked them for help". He said, at the age of 12, he called Bill Hewlett, co-founder of Hewlett-Packard, on the phone after getting his number from the phone book and asking him for spare parts so he could build a frequency counter (计频器). And Hewlett agreed and offered young Jobs a summer job assembling frequency counters.
"If you're afraid of failing, you won't get very far，" Jobs said.
