How to Build Patience Abilities
What's the purpose of building patience abilities? In a word, happiness. Better relationships, more success. But indeed it takes efforts to build them successfully. . Thus, when the big ones come, we will have developed the patience we need for hard times.
. We, human beings, are still constructed with our old reptilian（爬行动物的）brain that protects our physical and emotional survival. The urge to protect ourselves and what we consider valuable is absolutely habit-forming. So the first step in growing patience is to get in touch with the addictive quality of the opposite of patience—anger, impatience, blame and shame. We all have them, and we can grow beyond them.
Upgrade our attitude towards discomfort and pain. . We try to change the other person, situation or thing that we think is causing our discomfort. But the problem is that it is not the outside thing that's the source of our pain, but how our mind is set. So the solution to pain is an inside job.
Pay attention when the impatience or pain starts. Most of us don't really realize it when we are feeling even the smallest—but very present—painful feelings. We ignore the fact that we're in pain and focus completely on fixing the problem. . Focusing on what's actually happening, you can notice the worry of not wanting what's happening, the resistance.
Practise positive self-talk. When you find yourself impatient, or angry with yourself, you can remind yourself that you are growing. You can say to yourself, "It's true. I don't like this. ."
A.This is uncomfortable, but I can tolerate it.
B.Patience is good for you in every aspect.
C.Don't blame yourself for being angry sometimes.
D.Pain has its purposes and pushes us to find solutions.
E.Understand the addictive nature of anger and impatience.
F.Effective ways are recommended to train ourselves to work with little pain and annoyance.
G.But to care for ourselves, get curious' about what's happening in the moment inside you.
