Raising a child is a challenge for all parents. However, no matter how difficult it gets, you should never use verbal abuse(语言暴力) as a way of teaching.
Parents who don't know how to "control" their children or who don't find a way to "make them understand" what is right and what is wrong may use it. Like "You're stupid. Can you not understand what I'm explaining to you?" "You don't think with your head. It seems you think with your feet." "I'm tired of telling you things over and over again." However, it's clear that this is the worst way. This can cause serious problems in children's emotional stability(稳定性), such as damage to their self-esteem(自尊) and ability to relate to others. This can also lead to feelings of insecurity or fear towards their parents.
How can we prevent verbal abuse?
◆Don't lower their self-esteem: praise their achievements and encourage their wishes to improve.
◆ Be a good example: children see and absorb everything. Therefore, if they see their parents solving their problems through shouting, threats and beatings, in the future they'll do the same with others and also with their family.
◆Talk with your children: always remember that they're children and have a lot to learn. Since they can't always behave themselves, you need to talk to them in order to explain the behaviors that are expected of them.