Maybe you' ve experienced it before: You' re nervous, you find it difficult to sleep or eat, everything seems to be so worrying. And if you haven't experienced it yourself, maybe you' ve heardLeBron James says that even 20 more years into his NBA life he still gets nervous— even before the common season games. Why? Because he loves what he does and he loves that he's still getting to do it. He welcomes the nerves: the nerves, he says, give him a sense of being present, of feeling alive.
So if you' re looking forward to a point in your work when you don't get so nervous anymore. maybe it's time to stop. Because the nerves don't go away when you' re excited about what it is you get to do. And the nerves can even help you to perform at your best. However, the trickiest things about nerves may be that they help or harm us so much as we believe that they help or harm us. Our understanding of our nervousness— as it usually does— becomes the truth. So how can we deal with it properly?
____ . One thing that we can do is to believe that stress can even be good. In fact, according to the science research, there is a kind of"good stress," the one that we have to have for learning and growth. Without it, we' re either bored or refusing to get out of our comfort zone, and therefore not getting any better at what it is we'd like to do. The next important step is to notice when they start to fall from proper challenges into tiredness, even become sickness, or pain. When such a moment happens, you need to remind yourself that it is natural and try to calm yourself down, trying to come back to what you can control.
Breathing is the only thing that we can control. This is not to say"just breathe," because that's hardly helpful advice. But that is what you can hold on to in that case. Practice breathing, you can become calm again bit by bit. What comes next will also become matter of the course.
Anyway, if you love what you do and you want to keep getting better at doing it, allow yourself to find out what you need to make friends with your nerves, it is such a frightening word as it sounds.