①Do you compare yourself to other people? Perhaps your best friend receives something you really want for Christmas, or you're not allowed to go to a concert but your brother or sister is. Even though comparisons are common and can sometimes be helpful, concentrating on your own progress is important for your happiness.
②Why does concentrating on me matter? "We often compare ourselves to others who are doing better or not as well as ourselves," says Dr. Abbott, a psychologist (心理专家). "But I suggest comparing achievements to your past self (where you started) and your future self (where you'd like to get to)." This can make you take pride in what you've achieved and excited about what you might do. Psychologist Jack agrees and says that concentrating on your own purposes is more worthwhile than always trying to come out on top.
③Do comparisons make you happy? Comparing yourself to those around you is natural and we often do it without realizing it. It can help us to find our achievements and to form friendships with new people who have similar interests. However, it's important to remember that nobody is perfect in real life. It's also important to take note of how the comparison is making you feel.
④"If you begin to feel quite low, focus on your own strengths and what you are good at," says Abbott. In other words, you can ask yourself questions like "____", "What do I feel good about?" and "What improvements can I notice?", which can help you trust yourself.
⑤Maybe sometimes you are wondering "What if all my friends are better than me?". Dr. Antrobus says that jealousy (妒忌) is an ordinary feeling but focusing on improving your own performance can help you feel just as successful. He also mentions bat learning to celebrate your friends' success can not only help to cheer your friends up but also help you feel good. "It will encourage you to build each other up."
