As most of us know, talking and listening don't go smoothly every time. Will parents take you seriously, believe what you say, listen to and respect your opinions? But some of what happens depends on you, too. Since communication is a two-way street, the way you talk can influence how well a parent listens and understands you. So here are some guidelines to consider when talking to parents:
Be clear and direct. Be as clear as you can about what you think, feel, and want. They can listen better or be more helpful if they understand what you mean and what's really going on.
Be honest. If you're always honest, a parent will be likely to believe what you say. If you sometimes hide the truth or add too much drama, parents will have a harder time believing what you tell them. If you lie, they'll find it hard to trust you.
Try to understand their point of view. If you have a disagreement, can you see your parents' side?Telling parents you understand their views and feelings helps them be willing to see yours, too.
Try not to argue or complain. Using a tone that's friendly and respectful makes it more likely parents will listen and take what you say seriously.If you think your emotions might get the better of you, do something to blow off steam before talking: Go for a run. Cry. Do whatever it takes to sound calm when you need to.
A. Hit your pillow.
B. If you can, say so.
C. A lot depends on your parents.
D. Think twice before you make a decision.
E. Your parents won't always see things your way.
F. Give details that can help parents understand your situation.
G. Of course, this is hard for any of us when we're feeling heated about something.
