Forgiveness (原谅，宽恕) means different things to different people. Generally, however, it includes a decision to let go of anger and thoughts of revenge (复仇). The act that hurt or displeased you might always be with you, but forgiveness can reduce its control on you and free you from the control of the person who harmed you. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding for the one who hurt you. How do you start to forgive? Try the following steps.
Calm yourself. To remove your anger, try a simple stress-management way. "Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love, " Frederic says.
Don't wait for an apology. "Many times the person who hurt you has no plan to apologize," Frederic says. "They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don't see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting an awfully long time." Keep in mind that forgiveness does not mean balancing with the person who upset you.
Keep off the unpleasant. Mentally replaying your hurt gives power to the person who caused your pain. "Don't pay attention to your wounded feelings, learn to look for love, beauty and kindness around you," Frederic says.
Realize forgiveness is helpful. Research has shown that people who forgive have more energy, better appetite and better sleep pattern.
Don't forget to forgive yourself. "For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge," Frederic says. "But it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don't do it. "
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Forgiveness |
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The meaning of forgiveness |
Deciding to let the anger go away |
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Get away from the thought of others |
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The function of forgiveness |
Reducing and being free from control |
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Causing understanding for who hurt you |
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on how to start to forgive |
Calming yourself |
Breathe and consider something that make you . |
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waiting for an apology |
that forgiveness doesn't have the meaning of balancing with others. |
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Keeping off the unpleasant |
Look for nice and beautiful instead of paying attention to the wounded feelings |
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Realizing forgiveness does some |
Get more , eat and sleep well. |
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Remembering to forgive yourself |
Your confidence will be robbed forgiving yourself. |
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