You may feel comfortable with some people. You spend an hour with them and feel as if you have known them half a life. These people have something in common. And once we know what it is, we can try to do it ourselves.
How is it done? If you follow the skills, you'll make friends with people quickly.
First of all, good talkers ask questions. One well-known businesswoman says, "At business lunches, I always ask people what they did that morning. It's a common question, but it will get things going." From there you can move on to some other questions. And how he answers will let you know how far you can go.
This point seems clear, but it isn't. Your question should have a point and help to tell what sort of person you are talking to. And to find out, you really have to listen carefully and attentively.
Real listening at least means some things. If someone sticks to one topic, it means he's really interested in it. Real listening also means not just listening to words, but to tones (语气) of voice. If the voice sounds boring, then, it's time for you to change the subject.
Finally, good talkers know well when to say good-bye. Remember to give him a handshake and say, "I've really enjoyed meeting you." Let people know what you feel, and they may walk away feeling as if they've known you half their life.
A. Almost anyone will answer a question. B. It's polite to say goodbye when you're leaving.. C. If you want to see that person again, don't keep it a secret. D. Here are several skills that good talkers have. E. Second, once good talkers have asked questions, they listen to the answers. F. There are some suggestions for you. G. First, it means not to change the subject of the conversation. |