When faced with tough difficulties or troubles, people always give us positive words. 1 can lift our spirits indeed, but sometimes in some case it 2 depresses us. Psychology calls it "toxic positivity." What is it? Let's see the following 3.
Between sleepless nights, diapers (换尿布) and feeding times, having small children at home could leave Priscilla Goins feeling 4. She loved her kids, but it was a lot. "I would sometimes say 'I just want a minute to myself,'" Goins, of Knoxville, Tennessee, said. "People would be like: Oh, you'll miss it when they're 5 or you should value it." That made her so mad. She doesn't 6 what people say. She disagreed at all. Actually, in those moments, she simply wanted 7 that she was going through the tiredness 8.
A focus on positive thinking, while putting challenging and 9 experiences to the side, is what some experts call "toxic positivity." Being cheerful is not a bad thing. Certainly, a 10 attitude can be a gift to those around you, but it shouldn't 11 listening thoughtfully to others' experiences. When you are choosing to look at 12 from one angle-in this case a positive angle-you are very likely to dismiss or deny an authentic 13. That's toxic positivity, which is what Goins 14 when she was looking for a bit of mercy about the 15 of parenting young children. Even if you're trying to 16 someone, ignoring someone's tough experiences can leave them feeling that they should 17 negative feelings in the future. 18 trying to find a positive spin, we are supposed to use accepting and comprehensive words. Sometimes we just need to say "Yeah, me too," or "That makes total sense." It's allowing someone to express something that is 19, even if it's hard to hear or it's 20.
