You may not realize it, but when you stare at your partner's eyes, there's a good chance that you're looking at a modified reflection of yourself? Researchers have found that people choose partners who tend to be of similar size, shape ,and race as themselves… and they may even have facial features in common.
Take Lot Geels from Amsterdam and her American husband, Brock Mosovsky, for example. "We have similar blonde hair and blue eyes," says Lot. "Neither of us is very tall. We're both built athletically and we're both mainly of European origin. "
Even if you't look like your partner, you likely share nonphysical characteristics, according to a growing field of research. Tike education level, socioeconomic status, religion, personality features, and even core (核心) values.
Lot andBrock fall into this type as well." We both have PhDs and work in research," she says. "We both live an active lifestyle, mainly rock climbing and skiing. Our world views are pretty similar, and we're both hard-working, social and friendly people.
Researchers have been studying the phenomenon of people with similarities pairing up known as positive assortative coupling一for decades. If you're sure that "opposites attract", you may be surprised by research findings, which prove that like attracts like. However, if you believe that "likes attract", you probably understand why people surprisingly seek life partners. who remind them, on some comforting level, of themselves.
"There's an element of predictability- when you date Somebody of a similar background," says Ty Tashiro, the author of The Science of Happily Ever After. "They're less threatening, less scary. They'll be more of a familiar person front the start. Familiarity is something we find attractive. "