Some people are naturally outgoing, but other people have to practice to become outgoing. If you want to become outgoing, there are several strategies (策略）that you can use. Being "outgoing" involves learning how to present yourself to others, starting conversations, and being more confident in yourself.
One of the easiest ways to present yourself is to ask your friends, colleagues, or classmates to introduce you to their friends. For example, if you walk into a room and your friend is talking to someone else, make it a point to say hello and introduce yourself. The next time you see that person, you can say hello and, since you have already been introduced, you have built a bridge into future communication.
When you're in a social situation, such as at a party, try to make eye contact with the other people there with a friendly smile. If the other person responds or smiles back at you, then go over to them and introduce yourself. That is usually a good sign for a possible conversation. If the person does not respond, let them go their way. There's a difference between being "outgoing" and "pushy." Another practical way to start a conversation with others is to use compliments (赞美). When you're attracted by certain people, you're bound to notice little things that you appreciate. You can acknowledge these things with a sincere compliment.
Doing something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable is a good way to promote your confidence and help you become a more outgoing version of yourself. If you have never danced before but want to take a ballet lesson, try it out. Do your best to fight the inner voice telling that you can't do something or defining (定义)yourself by what you think you should be doing instead. With each little victory, you'll gain the confidence to step further and further outside your comfort zone.
