We seem to have a lot of arguments (争吵) in our family. Is this common? Arguments between parents and their children are inevitable in family life. It may happen at any time in every family. If your family never has arguments, it probably means that problems are being avoided (回避). To become good adults (成年人), children need to be able to tell others about their ideas clearly. Parents should make sure arguments are helpful to their children.
When a problem appears, decide if you need to argue about it. For example, you bought a new pair of sports shoes for your daughter days ago, but your daughter wants to wear an old pair of shoes to school. At this time, you don't need to argue with her. Just let her decide which pair of shoes to wear.
It's important to let your children win when they are right. When you and your children argue, you need to do more than listen to their ideas. When they give a right point, be happy to say,"You make me believe you are right. We'll do it in your way."Let your children know that you think their ideas are important and let them win. And through talking with each other, you can solve (解决) problems and arguments.
Set boundaries (界限) for arguments. If you are unhappy with the article that your children wrote about at school, you can have a discussion. But remember, it is their school work. It is up to their teachers to decide if it is good. If you are angry about this problem, then it's time for a break. Tell your children,"We need to stop, cool down and come back to it later."Then, when one of you might have a new way, it's time to discuss it.
