How to Know if Your Friend Is Really a Friend?
If you're unsure whether your friend is really a true friend or not, it generally means things have happened to cause you some doubt. The fact that you cannot be certain means that the friendship is under question and your feelings need to be dealt with before you can continue to trust this friendship is worth the effort. So, is this friend true to you or not?
Here are some questions you can ask yourself.
PART 1 Does Your Friend Want to BeWith You?
1. Spend time with your friend. Spending time together is a normal and expected part of friendship. Begin here as it is the best clue as to whether or not your friend is willing to make an effort in the friendship.
2. See what happens if you try to hang around a friend who is giving you information or instructions of not wanting to be near you.
3. Invite your friend to a party or special event at your place to see whether or not they accept the invitation.
PART 2 How Supportive is Your Friend?
1. Remember that friendship is not about the people who are true to your face. It's about the people who are true behind your back.
2. Observe how your friend is when they don't notice you're about. This provides you with the chance to find out what type of people your friend hangs out with or if they say anything bad about you or one of your closer friends.
3. Consider how your friend keeps your secrets. A good and sincere friend won't talk about your private lives and won't spread rumors (谣言) or, even worse, lies.
①Tony who spends time with you.
②Li Mei who keeps your secrets.
③Lin Tao who is in favor of your goals.
④Helen who speaks highly of you in public dishonestly.