Kindness is necessary and important, and usually success lies in kindness. As parents and teachers, we also teach children from a young age to "be kind to one another" and "treat others the way you want to be treated. "
Research has shown that kindness can not only help us to have a better relationship with others but also make it possible for us to live more happily. According to the Mayo Clinic, when we perform acts of kindness, the pleasure center in our brain becomes active, giving out the stress-reducing hormone(激素). That's why a volunteer always says he will get a strong feeling of satisfaction after offering help. And what is even greater is that kindness seldom stops with just one person. People will also be glad to help others after they receive an act of kindness. Then here comes a question: Could kindness be harmful to us? Let's think about it.
You are the new person on the team and you want to be well-liked and respected by your teammates. You are a kind person and tell your team, "Let me know how I can help you; I'm always available to help. "Though you may truly mean this, there are unlucky people in this world who will regard your kindness as a weakness. This can lead to you being taken advantage of by others.
What about a year later? You have been in your position now for one year, and you are working with the same team. You are noticing that your teammates continue asking for your help over and over again. In fact, the only time they communicate with you is when they need something. You have been helpful to your teammates but there has rarely been any return from them.
In general, it is wonderful to be kind to others, and your kind acts will be appreciated and, perhaps, paid off. However, you need to be willing to say "no" when realizing that your plate is already too full. When people ask you a hand, think it over if you have the time, energy, and attention to give to them. To truly be kind, sometimes you need to be more comfortable saying "no" to others and saying "yes"to yourself.
